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Chasing Cars
Saturday, July 9, 2011
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world?
- Chasing Cars/Snow Patrol
Wonder how much one is willing to give up for love. Not the silly romance kind. I'm talking about times which will put you to the test. All you willing able to put down everything for the person you love? Put down your dreams, ambitions, and own activities you want to pursue. If so, how long would you do it? 10 minutes? 1 hour? 1 day? 1 week? 1 year? 10 years? A life time?I dare not say I will. It's a scary thing, to let go of a securedly plan future just to hold on to the people you love. And even then, love needs not be out of a romantic root. Affections, apply too. How much are you willing to lay down for your partner? For your friend? and maybe for your family?A lot. but its hard. One example that comes to mind is parents. Often we complain about how much we dislike of something our parent do about us. Maybe limit us, or perhaps stopping us from doing things. But maybe, just maybe we've forgotten all about them, and blindly taken their deeds and sacrifices for granted.We get to enjoy freedom to do the things we want. Yes, for some its only to a certain degree, but nonetheless most of us would have quite a fair bit of autonomy in our lives. Imagine having all your free time dedicated to working for an income. Dedicated not out of your own pleasure, but dedicated out of a will to sustain and comfortable life for the people around you. While us kids go out to enjoy our time, no matter what, we'll always have quite a few hours of free will, on the other hand parents have to go out to work, face endless tasks, endure annoying bosses or pompous customers. All for the sake of us. When they come back, they have to handle us (whatever little they might give to our liking) and take care of the household. All here we all complaining about a restricted life where our parents hope to do during their free time is just to have a break.Then again, maybe some of us would argue about not being able to pursue our dreams. And maybe we'll miss out on a good opportunity. I like to think that, our parents raised us (me) for 19 years. I'm sure my parents gave up many things they wanted to do, pursue their dreams, work on something special, personal time, catch up with friends. Through 19 years of life, much to my unknown, my parents have heartbreakingly put aside much of their ideals to take care of me, bring me up. Moms get confine to the household to look after the kids. Dads have to work harder to feed another mouth. You know, even if they are the not good as parents, to have shelter above my head, to have a bowl of rice on my table, to even have the free time to pursue my own things, all these doesnt come easy. We can always claim independence by getting a part time job, but that would never measure up to the amount parents would have to work. Our part time job only covers our own expenses. It doesnt cover all those miscellaneous expenses we actually cant afford. Maybe now that we've all grown up and can take care of ourselves, hey, they're free to pursue their dreams now right? Not really. We've grown up and we're all big now, but dont forget, our parents too have grown, old. In a society demanding excellence, there is little space for an adult in his 40's to 50's to truly pursue a dream. Changing job would be unlikely, and even developing a personal talent would be difficult. Compare trying to become a professional musician at 20's as to during your 40-/50's. Theres already no space, little time, and lesser plasticity in the 'easiness' to learn. Our parents gave up their youth for us. Have you ever wondered how much our parents envy our youth? I'm not sure about others, but I often hear my mom telling me how nice it would be if she were me, to have all my free time, to pursue new courses, to go overseas, to do mission work. But clearly, she wont be able to do much of that, being tied down with so much responsibilities. We like to pick and choose our responsibilities. Some of us are willing to throw things and give up. Put ourselves in their shoes. These aren't responsibilities we can just leave and forget about. Sometimes, its a daily thing. These are responsibilities, a family you cant just abandon. Or even then, can we really blame them, are they superhumans? They are only as human as us. Sometimes we children think we have the biggest problems in the world. And we throw tantrums. We dont want to do things. And then we get really unhappy if our parents did something that "failed" us. Really unfair isn't it? Parents, they have the same kind of problems as we do, I'm dead sure. But there's more, more responsibility as an adult.This is probably something we cannot understand, until we become a parent ourselves. A moment our parents humbly wait for that they might have our understanding. Children of the world, stop complaining, and thinking only for ourselves. Our parents may suck in some ways, but so do you, and in my opinion, for majority of the case, there is no way, we can out-give our parents. In deeds or in sacrifice. Never.
Learn to love, our parents need it too.Labels: love, memories, thoughts
Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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- Hosanna -
Philosophy:
I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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Leave a message on my tagboard or drop me some questions if any.
Collection of inspirations and reminders: Nico_thoughts@Twitter
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Chasing Cars
Saturday, July 9, 2011
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world?
- Chasing Cars/Snow Patrol
Wonder how much one is willing to give up for love. Not the silly romance kind. I'm talking about times which will put you to the test. All you willing able to put down everything for the person you love? Put down your dreams, ambitions, and own activities you want to pursue. If so, how long would you do it? 10 minutes? 1 hour? 1 day? 1 week? 1 year? 10 years? A life time?I dare not say I will. It's a scary thing, to let go of a securedly plan future just to hold on to the people you love. And even then, love needs not be out of a romantic root. Affections, apply too. How much are you willing to lay down for your partner? For your friend? and maybe for your family?A lot. but its hard. One example that comes to mind is parents. Often we complain about how much we dislike of something our parent do about us. Maybe limit us, or perhaps stopping us from doing things. But maybe, just maybe we've forgotten all about them, and blindly taken their deeds and sacrifices for granted.We get to enjoy freedom to do the things we want. Yes, for some its only to a certain degree, but nonetheless most of us would have quite a fair bit of autonomy in our lives. Imagine having all your free time dedicated to working for an income. Dedicated not out of your own pleasure, but dedicated out of a will to sustain and comfortable life for the people around you. While us kids go out to enjoy our time, no matter what, we'll always have quite a few hours of free will, on the other hand parents have to go out to work, face endless tasks, endure annoying bosses or pompous customers. All for the sake of us. When they come back, they have to handle us (whatever little they might give to our liking) and take care of the household. All here we all complaining about a restricted life where our parents hope to do during their free time is just to have a break.Then again, maybe some of us would argue about not being able to pursue our dreams. And maybe we'll miss out on a good opportunity. I like to think that, our parents raised us (me) for 19 years. I'm sure my parents gave up many things they wanted to do, pursue their dreams, work on something special, personal time, catch up with friends. Through 19 years of life, much to my unknown, my parents have heartbreakingly put aside much of their ideals to take care of me, bring me up. Moms get confine to the household to look after the kids. Dads have to work harder to feed another mouth. You know, even if they are the not good as parents, to have shelter above my head, to have a bowl of rice on my table, to even have the free time to pursue my own things, all these doesnt come easy. We can always claim independence by getting a part time job, but that would never measure up to the amount parents would have to work. Our part time job only covers our own expenses. It doesnt cover all those miscellaneous expenses we actually cant afford. Maybe now that we've all grown up and can take care of ourselves, hey, they're free to pursue their dreams now right? Not really. We've grown up and we're all big now, but dont forget, our parents too have grown, old. In a society demanding excellence, there is little space for an adult in his 40's to 50's to truly pursue a dream. Changing job would be unlikely, and even developing a personal talent would be difficult. Compare trying to become a professional musician at 20's as to during your 40-/50's. Theres already no space, little time, and lesser plasticity in the 'easiness' to learn. Our parents gave up their youth for us. Have you ever wondered how much our parents envy our youth? I'm not sure about others, but I often hear my mom telling me how nice it would be if she were me, to have all my free time, to pursue new courses, to go overseas, to do mission work. But clearly, she wont be able to do much of that, being tied down with so much responsibilities. We like to pick and choose our responsibilities. Some of us are willing to throw things and give up. Put ourselves in their shoes. These aren't responsibilities we can just leave and forget about. Sometimes, its a daily thing. These are responsibilities, a family you cant just abandon. Or even then, can we really blame them, are they superhumans? They are only as human as us. Sometimes we children think we have the biggest problems in the world. And we throw tantrums. We dont want to do things. And then we get really unhappy if our parents did something that "failed" us. Really unfair isn't it? Parents, they have the same kind of problems as we do, I'm dead sure. But there's more, more responsibility as an adult.This is probably something we cannot understand, until we become a parent ourselves. A moment our parents humbly wait for that they might have our understanding. Children of the world, stop complaining, and thinking only for ourselves. Our parents may suck in some ways, but so do you, and in my opinion, for majority of the case, there is no way, we can out-give our parents. In deeds or in sacrifice. Never.
Learn to love, our parents need it too.Labels: love, memories, thoughts
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