Mi Corazon

We at times, like to delude ourselves into thinking our problems are the worst, followed by wallowing in self-pity. But as much as we'd wish the world to shower its love and "sympathy" for us, we need to know one thing, there's always one in a worse plight than us.

Such as those who fret over not having enough money, where others have to work while having school just to help out with their household expenses. Some complain about hating their home, others don’t even have on to return to. Those who feel like as if their friends don’t like them or care about them, some don’t even have friends and are lonely to begin with.

Indeed, all problems faced by an individual are subjected to a personal degree of difficulty. Thus if one prefers to compare whose worse off, I'll think that the only criteria for judging that position is the one who does nothing about it, and sits there whining to himself, pitying himself of his sorry state. Yeap, which means to say that even starving kids in Africa, who carry water over long distances just to bathe their siblings is better than you.

Even if help comes our way, we'll just be a burden to the one who's there, not because we become an extra load to them, but because we're not doing anything, sapping on their strength, time and effort, it isnt quite fair to them eh. Especially for those who are waiting for some sort of help to come their way before they do anything. It's being horribly selfish to those giving their part of their lives to help you even in the genuine state of your difficulties.

In our focus on self, we underestimate the power of the will. I find that it's mostly due to our own selfishness of wanting to be helped, or to take strength into facing and overcoming the problems. But I think that we all are able to, together with the mutual effort of those there for us.

Like a quote from Naurto:

If he rips my legs off, I’ll bite him to death!
If he rips my head off, I’ll stare him to death!
And if he gouges out my eyes, I’ll curse him from the grave!
Even If I’m torn to shreds, I’m taking Sasuke back from Orochimaru!"

No matter how bad the circumstances is, we all still can do something, even if it boils down to just having faith to believe.

Bringing back to the point of people who seem troubleless. Not true. People all have their own troubles, big or small, but its the strength that them through, and the outward perspective of removing one self from the equation (Tron =P) that keeps that smile on their face. They become genuinely happy, in the midst of their problems, a mixture of both troubled yet with hope.

There are people who have demonstrated strength in overcome their adversities, and by overcoming doesnt imply that everything's over. Overcoming includes fighting and not letting oneself fall even in hard times. Pulling through. Such behind a smile of a girl I've only heard, tells of a story of neglect, abuse, responsibility yet she pulls through each day with strength and a positive smile, to people unknowingly around her.

Our problems are big on its own measure, hopelessly difficult to us. But I think it's good if we could have the mindset to actively work on it, inch by inch, rather than wait for it to disappear on its own. No one can help you if you refuse to help yourself. As hard as it is, it's overcoming the sluggish inertia, once that gets going, it becomes much much easier, and meaningful.

In a way, it brings it to having to be selfless, looking past oneself, of the right to be "treated nicely and concerned", for dwelling in the problems and pass all your weakness from a point of having to do what's necessary.

If he rips my legs off, I’ll bite him to death!
If he rips my head off, I’ll stare him to death!
And if he gouges out my eyes, I’ll curse him from the grave!
Even If I’m torn to shreds, I’m taking Sasuke back from Orochimaru!"