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Kites of Friendships
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Shall reblog a conversation I had with a friend, with permission of cos =) And yea, merely just edited and rearranged certain parts as well as touch up on all my typos. Original meaning left as it is =)“Friend” says:*but it's dumb cause she still trust easily and get hurt at the same big time*when she tot A is her gd fren*A walks away*but its ok*family matters more*then it jus so happen*her uncle decides to walk away too*yea right*tts life*but it's still ok*she has herself*she has her other family members*and her other so-called friends who might all leave*she will be strong; why shld she cry and die cause of idiots*life is more meaningful than thatNico says:*hmm, because then it will turn you into a heartless loveless zombie*=P*baa*ppl leave all the time man*take it as a journey“Friend” says:*ya so when r u gg leaveNico says:*sometimes ppl walk into you life*times they hav to leave*sometimes you walk into ppl's life*times you have to leave*Life is all about seasons*change is inevitable“Friend” says:*its jus plain stupid tt i am trying hard to be in ppl life and yet they leave*so wad the freak sia; why shld i be the one tt -.-Nico says:*are you holding on too hard?“Friend” says:*so if u r leaving one fine day*pls tell me in advance*and not let me discover*tt why there's the essay on KITESNico says:*I tell you, I will one day.*but parting of ways doesn't always have to be on bad notes“Friend” says:*yea actually u alrd told me right from the start*lolNico says:*that's becos i see you have kite issues HahaNico says:*So i jus wanted to let you know*that I believe in seasons*and that you shudn't hold on like siao to some kites*that way, you'll nv be able to let them fly*nor will you be able to appreciate the beauty of it's flight in the high high skies*there are times you hav to let go*there are times you have to pull back*there are times, the strings get broken and the kite flies away*there are times, you get new kites*some of the tough things in life can be about letting go*but without letting go*you also cant receive*you cant get anything with a clenched fist“Friend” says:*i know but letting it go is never easy*like my good fren.. it took me 1 yr*though we r still fren but we r not tt close anymore*it took me 1 yr*and my uncle i told myself to let go*nth could b done alrd*it's fixed*1 yr plus*i still feel =.=*i tink i might jus die if ppl in my family die... cause beyond 2 yrs of sadness means i have to go see doc liaoNico says:*heh, frenz, same same, all come and go de. you see i last time also so dam close, I had a wonderful clique, now also I'm on my own wut*and besides*you feeling sad also good sign*to show that you still loving them wut*but loving them doesn't mean you hold on to them forever*sitting around and wishing they'll be around is pointless*they are jus empty fantasiesNico says:*you gotta firm yourself up*say goodbai*and jus hold on to wat's good left of those memories*and nv look back*be thankful for the present*be thankful you had all those wonderful times*be thankful you even get the experience those times*however short, however long.*it's still a privilege*focus on what you have and not what you dun hav*lol same here for me wut*i jus lost my phone.*the next day*i lost my friggin post in Hiclub which represents my whole friggin passion and blood in yr 2*i emo-ed for 3 days*and now i'm sick of jus being moping around in fantasies and "if-only"s*yea, things wud be good if they were that way*but face it*they wont be*it's up to us to make the best of what we have*careless waste of time fantasizing of the possibilities only lead to further disregard and waste to what you still have“Friend” says:*but i am proud to say that "i have grown"*though i am still holding on tight*but then*for this fren of mine whom i'm suspecting the drift*I let it drift*though i still -.- for abt 2-3 daysNico says:*haha*say, certain times, things aren't meant to drift la*like sometimes with frens*someone has to unfairly keep up the relationship*jus as how you every now and then come kajiao me ;)*it's an effort yea*but muz see la*is it worth keeping*sometimes certain frenships really aren't meant for keeping*but yalor*hav to discern and see which aare the ones you need/want/have to keep =)“Friend” says:*ya lor i must be blind to wan to keep ursNico says:*HAHAA*wat to do*you love me too much*HAHAHA“Friend” says:*u wan me to stab myselfNico says:*I dun mind*do you wan to?*HAHAHAanyways, so yea, I think relationships are part and parcel of life. So is the coming and going of them. There is no such thing as forever, because our lives are specially unique and we all have to take our own individual paths. The common longest side by side path I would say, would be marriage, where a couple stays by each other for a period in life, but in the end, one has to part first.All the stuff about friendship being forever is a half-truth in my opinion. True friendship I feel, is about an intricate bond, that remains. Two may not have to be together forever, but it is the kind where after 10 years, if they so happen to meet by chance, that there is just this something that stays on and have never change. But yea, it is not all of us that possess such friendships. Just as how life is like a path, with ppl movin in and out, as well as us crossing other ppl's path.If we were to judge about ppl leaving us as friends, what about the friends we have left, friends we have taken for granted, friends/people we treated like they never existed. You never know, you might have been their best buddy in their world, but you simply walk off from their life because you thought they weren't compatible or there wasnt any click.I just wana state that this doesnt meant we take a friendship lightly, but more so of, that in friendships, we give our 100% into one, but expect nothing in return. We give the best of we can to make the best out of someone's life for the time we are together. I don't think this is pessimism that I'm talking about. It's realism. Face it, people have to go one fine day. There is almost no forever in this world. Everything perishes, both the tangible and intangible.As I mention, certain relationships are meant to pulled back, some meant to let go, and others, to simply let nature take it's course. If we took every relationship lightly, then we probably will let go of the ones important to us. If we took every relationship over-seriously, then while ppl have moved on, we're still here dwelling in the mud over our loss. And for those that simply unfold into a somewhat magical beautiful friendship that is there yet not there, those serve their purposes too.And yea, just to clarify, walking away doesnt mean you walk away from your friends, but jus walk away from those "sweet unforgetable" memories and just continue down life's path. You and your friend might patch things up, maybe split, maybe linger on in some limbo state of interaction but hey, there's no need to dwell in the past and wallow in memories. Either you fight to strengthen the relationship, or just that the two paths aren't meant to cross for this season. But hey hey, just put in your best in every friendship, and don't expect for anything. As much as you wan to have good friends, first you must be a good friend yourself.
I'm sure many don't see friendship the way I do, but I guess it's just all our own views hm?and yea,Don't cry because it's gone; Rejoice because it happened.Labels: frenz, thoughts
Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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Kites of Friendships
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Shall reblog a conversation I had with a friend, with permission of cos =) And yea, merely just edited and rearranged certain parts as well as touch up on all my typos. Original meaning left as it is =)“Friend” says:*but it's dumb cause she still trust easily and get hurt at the same big time*when she tot A is her gd fren*A walks away*but its ok*family matters more*then it jus so happen*her uncle decides to walk away too*yea right*tts life*but it's still ok*she has herself*she has her other family members*and her other so-called friends who might all leave*she will be strong; why shld she cry and die cause of idiots*life is more meaningful than thatNico says:*hmm, because then it will turn you into a heartless loveless zombie*=P*baa*ppl leave all the time man*take it as a journey“Friend” says:*ya so when r u gg leaveNico says:*sometimes ppl walk into you life*times they hav to leave*sometimes you walk into ppl's life*times you have to leave*Life is all about seasons*change is inevitable“Friend” says:*its jus plain stupid tt i am trying hard to be in ppl life and yet they leave*so wad the freak sia; why shld i be the one tt -.-Nico says:*are you holding on too hard?“Friend” says:*so if u r leaving one fine day*pls tell me in advance*and not let me discover*tt why there's the essay on KITESNico says:*I tell you, I will one day.*but parting of ways doesn't always have to be on bad notes“Friend” says:*yea actually u alrd told me right from the start*lolNico says:*that's becos i see you have kite issues HahaNico says:*So i jus wanted to let you know*that I believe in seasons*and that you shudn't hold on like siao to some kites*that way, you'll nv be able to let them fly*nor will you be able to appreciate the beauty of it's flight in the high high skies*there are times you hav to let go*there are times you have to pull back*there are times, the strings get broken and the kite flies away*there are times, you get new kites*some of the tough things in life can be about letting go*but without letting go*you also cant receive*you cant get anything with a clenched fist“Friend” says:*i know but letting it go is never easy*like my good fren.. it took me 1 yr*though we r still fren but we r not tt close anymore*it took me 1 yr*and my uncle i told myself to let go*nth could b done alrd*it's fixed*1 yr plus*i still feel =.=*i tink i might jus die if ppl in my family die... cause beyond 2 yrs of sadness means i have to go see doc liaoNico says:*heh, frenz, same same, all come and go de. you see i last time also so dam close, I had a wonderful clique, now also I'm on my own wut*and besides*you feeling sad also good sign*to show that you still loving them wut*but loving them doesn't mean you hold on to them forever*sitting around and wishing they'll be around is pointless*they are jus empty fantasiesNico says:*you gotta firm yourself up*say goodbai*and jus hold on to wat's good left of those memories*and nv look back*be thankful for the present*be thankful you had all those wonderful times*be thankful you even get the experience those times*however short, however long.*it's still a privilege*focus on what you have and not what you dun hav*lol same here for me wut*i jus lost my phone.*the next day*i lost my friggin post in Hiclub which represents my whole friggin passion and blood in yr 2*i emo-ed for 3 days*and now i'm sick of jus being moping around in fantasies and "if-only"s*yea, things wud be good if they were that way*but face it*they wont be*it's up to us to make the best of what we have*careless waste of time fantasizing of the possibilities only lead to further disregard and waste to what you still have“Friend” says:*but i am proud to say that "i have grown"*though i am still holding on tight*but then*for this fren of mine whom i'm suspecting the drift*I let it drift*though i still -.- for abt 2-3 daysNico says:*haha*say, certain times, things aren't meant to drift la*like sometimes with frens*someone has to unfairly keep up the relationship*jus as how you every now and then come kajiao me ;)*it's an effort yea*but muz see la*is it worth keeping*sometimes certain frenships really aren't meant for keeping*but yalor*hav to discern and see which aare the ones you need/want/have to keep =)“Friend” says:*ya lor i must be blind to wan to keep ursNico says:*HAHAA*wat to do*you love me too much*HAHAHA“Friend” says:*u wan me to stab myselfNico says:*I dun mind*do you wan to?*HAHAHAanyways, so yea, I think relationships are part and parcel of life. So is the coming and going of them. There is no such thing as forever, because our lives are specially unique and we all have to take our own individual paths. The common longest side by side path I would say, would be marriage, where a couple stays by each other for a period in life, but in the end, one has to part first.All the stuff about friendship being forever is a half-truth in my opinion. True friendship I feel, is about an intricate bond, that remains. Two may not have to be together forever, but it is the kind where after 10 years, if they so happen to meet by chance, that there is just this something that stays on and have never change. But yea, it is not all of us that possess such friendships. Just as how life is like a path, with ppl movin in and out, as well as us crossing other ppl's path.If we were to judge about ppl leaving us as friends, what about the friends we have left, friends we have taken for granted, friends/people we treated like they never existed. You never know, you might have been their best buddy in their world, but you simply walk off from their life because you thought they weren't compatible or there wasnt any click.I just wana state that this doesnt meant we take a friendship lightly, but more so of, that in friendships, we give our 100% into one, but expect nothing in return. We give the best of we can to make the best out of someone's life for the time we are together. I don't think this is pessimism that I'm talking about. It's realism. Face it, people have to go one fine day. There is almost no forever in this world. Everything perishes, both the tangible and intangible.As I mention, certain relationships are meant to pulled back, some meant to let go, and others, to simply let nature take it's course. If we took every relationship lightly, then we probably will let go of the ones important to us. If we took every relationship over-seriously, then while ppl have moved on, we're still here dwelling in the mud over our loss. And for those that simply unfold into a somewhat magical beautiful friendship that is there yet not there, those serve their purposes too.And yea, just to clarify, walking away doesnt mean you walk away from your friends, but jus walk away from those "sweet unforgetable" memories and just continue down life's path. You and your friend might patch things up, maybe split, maybe linger on in some limbo state of interaction but hey, there's no need to dwell in the past and wallow in memories. Either you fight to strengthen the relationship, or just that the two paths aren't meant to cross for this season. But hey hey, just put in your best in every friendship, and don't expect for anything. As much as you wan to have good friends, first you must be a good friend yourself.
I'm sure many don't see friendship the way I do, but I guess it's just all our own views hm?and yea,Don't cry because it's gone; Rejoice because it happened.Labels: frenz, thoughts
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