Hmm, just a little update on my journey. Realize during this season, I have actually develop some degree of humility.

This comes quite as a surprise as not many people would know, but I used to be someone who would never back down in any and I mean any fight. Hence my stamina in going on and on repetitively on many things. I could stretch an argument to a span of days based on a single word I didn't feel happy about.

But it's been a long learning process. Didn't realize it but I'm glad. Over time, I've learnt to place my pride aside and make an effort to see where the "offending" party is coming from. It means that I actually remind myself to, lol. Sadly it isn't natural yet. Though, it's a big difference from the past me who wouldn't even consider my fault to be greater.

I think the root of every conflicts can be singled down to two simple things. Pride and anger. Sometimes we become self-absorbed in only wanting things our way, we push aside all opposition mindlessly. We ignore any faults and zoom in on the other person, demanding only what satisfies us, right or not. Mostly it's always only all about the other person and all his mistakes and faults But in every situation and conflict, have you sat down and thought who's the one with the biggest fault?


You're the one with pride. You're the one angry and being hostile. No, it doesnt matter how little it is, you've done it, you're wrong. And you've made a wrong to the other party, yes to the one that's being even nastier and judgmental. The person's who's shooting you down. Cos the important thing is, it's not what others have done, but what you did. Your faults are yours and yours to bear. Pride comes in, often in a self-righteous manner, setting yourself up to be better than the other person, hence being less at fault means we're more right.

When we choose to give that up, reminding ourselves its not always about us, we open ourselves to understanding the other person. Of course how much understanding boils down to the degree of how much we choose to let go. Even when people shoot us down for things we may not wholely agree on, there is usually a little truth in what people say that is applicable on us. A little pride or anger, the wrong tone, that moment of disrespect.

And that's what we are at fault for, regardless the aggressor and victim. So as long as we've made a small wrong, we're still wrong. Can't compare someone with 99 faults to say he's 98 faults more than me so he's more wrong. There's no "more wrong". There's only wrong, something everybody often is, in their own ways. Similarly, there's no one person being 'more right' than the other.


So, if'd we could all lower our pride,reflect what we've done instead of being so critical of others. When someone shoots you, look at what truly was wrong with us rather than focus on what isn't, we'll all be better people.

Humility isn't for others. It's for ourselves. We learn. We build character.

Labels: thoughts

Hmm, just a little update on my journey. Realize during this season, I have actually develop some degree of humility.

This comes quite as a surprise as not many people would know, but I used to be someone who would never back down in any and I mean any fight. Hence my stamina in going on and on repetitively on many things. I could stretch an argument to a span of days based on a single word I didn't feel happy about.

But it's been a long learning process. Didn't realize it but I'm glad. Over time, I've learnt to place my pride aside and make an effort to see where the "offending" party is coming from. It means that I actually remind myself to, lol. Sadly it isn't natural yet. Though, it's a big difference from the past me who wouldn't even consider my fault to be greater.

I think the root of every conflicts can be singled down to two simple things. Pride and anger. Sometimes we become self-absorbed in only wanting things our way, we push aside all opposition mindlessly. We ignore any faults and zoom in on the other person, demanding only what satisfies us, right or not. Mostly it's always only all about the other person and all his mistakes and faults But in every situation and conflict, have you sat down and thought who's the one with the biggest fault?


You're the one with pride. You're the one angry and being hostile. No, it doesnt matter how little it is, you've done it, you're wrong. And you've made a wrong to the other party, yes to the one that's being even nastier and judgmental. The person's who's shooting you down. Cos the important thing is, it's not what others have done, but what you did. Your faults are yours and yours to bear. Pride comes in, often in a self-righteous manner, setting yourself up to be better than the other person, hence being less at fault means we're more right.

When we choose to give that up, reminding ourselves its not always about us, we open ourselves to understanding the other person. Of course how much understanding boils down to the degree of how much we choose to let go. Even when people shoot us down for things we may not wholely agree on, there is usually a little truth in what people say that is applicable on us. A little pride or anger, the wrong tone, that moment of disrespect.

And that's what we are at fault for, regardless the aggressor and victim. So as long as we've made a small wrong, we're still wrong. Can't compare someone with 99 faults to say he's 98 faults more than me so he's more wrong. There's no "more wrong". There's only wrong, something everybody often is, in their own ways. Similarly, there's no one person being 'more right' than the other.


So, if'd we could all lower our pride,reflect what we've done instead of being so critical of others. When someone shoots you, look at what truly was wrong with us rather than focus on what isn't, we'll all be better people.

Humility isn't for others. It's for ourselves. We learn. We build character.

Labels: thoughts