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Ashes of the Past
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
"Don't walk into my life if you don't plan on staying."
It's a harsh statement. I see it being used often by people upset at losing people in their lives. I like to respectfully say though that inasmuch hurt that has been done onto us, have we considered the same hurts we have done to others? How about all the people whom lives we left? It'd likely be that we can't think of much, not because we hardly did it, but because we did it so simply we don't realize it.
For many reasons, people don't always leave intentionally. Sometimes it's circumstances that demands so. For some, the bonds of relationships slowly break down. There's also the factor of insignificance or one party not valuing the relationship as the other, and worst would of course for one to make a temporary gain from that relationship.
We all do it, I believe. It's impossible to plan to stay in every life you come across, similarly it's impossible to not walk into someone's life without deciding to. At every point of time, people are going to be part of your life, just as well you being a part of others life. Everyone has an subjective value to the other, and it isn't always reciprocal. People will leave you just as often as we'd do to others.
While being upset and angry about someone moving on from you, how about reflecting on people you moved on from, people whom valued your relationship and were hurt when you unknowingly moved on. Maybe then in your own vindication, understand that people leaving our lives isn't always intentional, sadly.
I believe this process is natural, albeit painful. Why not remember the good times as blessing rather let it be a curse to your happiness. Let go the ashes of the past and hold on to the present. Stop living in memories, rather make space to create better ones. Cherish what that we have now.
Memories are of a dead past, but the present is alive. Stop mourning death and start appreciating life. Don't neglect the people that are around for the people who arent there, because soon enough they too will have to go. Expect nothing. Cherish everything.
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Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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- Hosanna -
Philosophy:
I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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Leave a message on my tagboard or drop me some questions if any.
Collection of inspirations and reminders: Nico_thoughts@Twitter
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Ashes of the Past
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
"Don't walk into my life if you don't plan on staying."
It's a harsh statement. I see it being used often by people upset at losing people in their lives. I like to respectfully say though that inasmuch hurt that has been done onto us, have we considered the same hurts we have done to others? How about all the people whom lives we left? It'd likely be that we can't think of much, not because we hardly did it, but because we did it so simply we don't realize it.
For many reasons, people don't always leave intentionally. Sometimes it's circumstances that demands so. For some, the bonds of relationships slowly break down. There's also the factor of insignificance or one party not valuing the relationship as the other, and worst would of course for one to make a temporary gain from that relationship.
We all do it, I believe. It's impossible to plan to stay in every life you come across, similarly it's impossible to not walk into someone's life without deciding to. At every point of time, people are going to be part of your life, just as well you being a part of others life. Everyone has an subjective value to the other, and it isn't always reciprocal. People will leave you just as often as we'd do to others.
While being upset and angry about someone moving on from you, how about reflecting on people you moved on from, people whom valued your relationship and were hurt when you unknowingly moved on. Maybe then in your own vindication, understand that people leaving our lives isn't always intentional, sadly.
I believe this process is natural, albeit painful. Why not remember the good times as blessing rather let it be a curse to your happiness. Let go the ashes of the past and hold on to the present. Stop living in memories, rather make space to create better ones. Cherish what that we have now.
Memories are of a dead past, but the present is alive. Stop mourning death and start appreciating life. Don't neglect the people that are around for the people who arent there, because soon enough they too will have to go. Expect nothing. Cherish everything.
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