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We walk today, because we fell yesterday.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
This is a post written at 5am so my thoughts are mostly unfiltered. Gonna be long and boring... Do not let me fall if you wont be there to catch to me. The quote may sounds like an assurance to many, but I quite disagree. How does one not let another fall? And how does it make sense that someone ought to be there to catch us. Think about it, for the vast majority of times we fall, was there anyone to there to catch us?
I don't intend to bring this as another emo nemo negative trait of the world, but more of the personal responsibility we need to take in our lives. How is it someone's else responsibility to catch you when you fall, and if thus fail to do so, has as though committed a crime against you. It's like we blame others for not catching us. Hm.
First we need to question the origin of falling. There is two ways that causes someone to fall. Either it's a mishap on your part, or an external environmental trigger. If we get our mindset right, I'd like to think most of the fault is ours. So let's talk about that first. Sometimes it's cause we don't look out for things. The table corner, the ledge, the ditch, the curb. Sometimes it's a mistimed step, trip over our own feet, misjudged the distance between your steps and feeling like you've walked off a cliff for a split second. And that's mostly with non-living things, it'll be stupid of us to blame the chair for magically appearing in your way. Yet somehow, amazingly some of us actually even go into a fit of rage, spewing vulgarities and being pissed off at it. At something with no choice, will, or intention to do harm to you.
Things get a little different with people though. Ahh, now it's two people right, there's that active participation in that unfateful interaction. Perhaps someone knocked into you while walking. Now it's easy. Quickly our fingers point out, cant the person have looked out? Is he so dumb or careless to not see me? And we forget with 1 finger point out, we have 3 pointing back at us. We didn't see that person as well, we walked right into him the same way he walked into us. But we always find the right excuses for ourselves. Nuff said.
I mean if you rethink that earlier sentence. "Don't let me fall, if you wont be there to catch me" Summing up my previous point, falling is often our own doing, and now we're demanding someone to be responsible for it? The only way another person could fully ensure he is abosultely free from having that happening is to tie you to the floor. That way, there is no way YOU can fall. It's almost akin to saying, "Don't let me starve, if you wont be there to feed me" I'm not sure about you, my mind doesnt even make sense of what I just said. Maybe it's a crappy analogy, but I'm thinking that's because the two parts of it doesn't even have a logical link.
It's by grace we're caught. Nobody needs to catch you, it's not required of them to dive to your silly imbalance. But we all would if we could, because we care. The problem comes when we (fallers) demand that grace as a right. When I fall, someone has to catch me.
You realize when someone falls, you dont get a crowd rushing towards you to carry you, pacify you? There is of course times we need help that people do come. But that's because we know we're supposed to pick ourselves up. We grew up taking knocks here and there, sure we got help and attention every now and then, but we mostly got by ourselves.
And so then what? We learn. We learn how to balance our steps well, a little adjustment to our speed, a slight twist to our feet, we try to prevent another fall. And if it so unfortunately happens as it always embarrassingly does, we learn how to fall right. We know the nasty experience of falling straight face on isn't something you want to do twice, we attempt all kinds of maneuvers from swinging wildly to grab something by chance, stabilizing ourselves mid-fall like a gymnast, to reaching out our hands to catch the fall. And if we graze ourselves, bleed a little, we learn to not think about the pain, or make do with some comical limp.
It becomes almost pathetic to have people blaming others for their falls. Surely when it comes to people, there's two parts to it. But I've seen so many people just lying on the floor. Something trips them up, perhaps a broken friendship, or a conflict that hurts both ways. It ends up with them feeling sorry, and then being all self-pitying and waiting for someone to
Sometimes, we are not careful and we don't look out. Conflicts occur, problems develop, relationships break down, and sometimes we fall from the pain of it. It's a natural thing, our emotions gets knocked off balance and we tip over. The pain is great, but the biggest issue comes when someone doesn't know how to pick themselves up. In their low, they end up feeling so hurt with no strength to get back up. Sometimes people are there to pull you up, sometimes not. But the thing is, we can't always be relying on such help, at least not before we've made our bestest effort to get on our own feet, then only are we truly in need of help. Some people get so over reliant, they get muscle dystrophy, get so used and pampered to the demands of always having people pick you up, we lean on them, and tell them. Well, don't let me fall, if you wont be catching me" And then it's like in our own stagnant state we demand and enforce others to stay with us. And if they move on and thus we fall, we feel like it's their fault for moving away and not ours for leaning on them.
And then as well, the more intentional trip ups. People hurt you, knock you down, fail you, break your trust, betray you, and what not. Someone can do you wrong and punch you straight in the face and knock you over. You can choose to remain down and cry, sulk, and complain that he has to pick you up. Well, he should to make up for it, but what if he doesn't? Will you stay put and wait?
All in all, to sum up everything. We fall mostly due to our follies, and additionally by something else. We get knocked down, feel depressed, it's all part of natural physics. The biggest question is, what are you going to do next? Stay down and be unhappy, feel sorry for ourselves. Or pick yourself up, learn to overcome the pain. Have the scars as reminders and life lessons. Don't grow up physically yet remain emotionally infantile. Know that blaming others and feeling sorry for ourselves doesn't help anything; life moves on, with or without you.
We walk today, because we fell yesterday.
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Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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- Hosanna -
Philosophy:
I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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We walk today, because we fell yesterday.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
This is a post written at 5am so my thoughts are mostly unfiltered. Gonna be long and boring... Do not let me fall if you wont be there to catch to me. The quote may sounds like an assurance to many, but I quite disagree. How does one not let another fall? And how does it make sense that someone ought to be there to catch us. Think about it, for the vast majority of times we fall, was there anyone to there to catch us?
I don't intend to bring this as another emo nemo negative trait of the world, but more of the personal responsibility we need to take in our lives. How is it someone's else responsibility to catch you when you fall, and if thus fail to do so, has as though committed a crime against you. It's like we blame others for not catching us. Hm.
First we need to question the origin of falling. There is two ways that causes someone to fall. Either it's a mishap on your part, or an external environmental trigger. If we get our mindset right, I'd like to think most of the fault is ours. So let's talk about that first. Sometimes it's cause we don't look out for things. The table corner, the ledge, the ditch, the curb. Sometimes it's a mistimed step, trip over our own feet, misjudged the distance between your steps and feeling like you've walked off a cliff for a split second. And that's mostly with non-living things, it'll be stupid of us to blame the chair for magically appearing in your way. Yet somehow, amazingly some of us actually even go into a fit of rage, spewing vulgarities and being pissed off at it. At something with no choice, will, or intention to do harm to you.
Things get a little different with people though. Ahh, now it's two people right, there's that active participation in that unfateful interaction. Perhaps someone knocked into you while walking. Now it's easy. Quickly our fingers point out, cant the person have looked out? Is he so dumb or careless to not see me? And we forget with 1 finger point out, we have 3 pointing back at us. We didn't see that person as well, we walked right into him the same way he walked into us. But we always find the right excuses for ourselves. Nuff said.
I mean if you rethink that earlier sentence. "Don't let me fall, if you wont be there to catch me" Summing up my previous point, falling is often our own doing, and now we're demanding someone to be responsible for it? The only way another person could fully ensure he is abosultely free from having that happening is to tie you to the floor. That way, there is no way YOU can fall. It's almost akin to saying, "Don't let me starve, if you wont be there to feed me" I'm not sure about you, my mind doesnt even make sense of what I just said. Maybe it's a crappy analogy, but I'm thinking that's because the two parts of it doesn't even have a logical link.
It's by grace we're caught. Nobody needs to catch you, it's not required of them to dive to your silly imbalance. But we all would if we could, because we care. The problem comes when we (fallers) demand that grace as a right. When I fall, someone has to catch me.
You realize when someone falls, you dont get a crowd rushing towards you to carry you, pacify you? There is of course times we need help that people do come. But that's because we know we're supposed to pick ourselves up. We grew up taking knocks here and there, sure we got help and attention every now and then, but we mostly got by ourselves.
And so then what? We learn. We learn how to balance our steps well, a little adjustment to our speed, a slight twist to our feet, we try to prevent another fall. And if it so unfortunately happens as it always embarrassingly does, we learn how to fall right. We know the nasty experience of falling straight face on isn't something you want to do twice, we attempt all kinds of maneuvers from swinging wildly to grab something by chance, stabilizing ourselves mid-fall like a gymnast, to reaching out our hands to catch the fall. And if we graze ourselves, bleed a little, we learn to not think about the pain, or make do with some comical limp.
It becomes almost pathetic to have people blaming others for their falls. Surely when it comes to people, there's two parts to it. But I've seen so many people just lying on the floor. Something trips them up, perhaps a broken friendship, or a conflict that hurts both ways. It ends up with them feeling sorry, and then being all self-pitying and waiting for someone to
Sometimes, we are not careful and we don't look out. Conflicts occur, problems develop, relationships break down, and sometimes we fall from the pain of it. It's a natural thing, our emotions gets knocked off balance and we tip over. The pain is great, but the biggest issue comes when someone doesn't know how to pick themselves up. In their low, they end up feeling so hurt with no strength to get back up. Sometimes people are there to pull you up, sometimes not. But the thing is, we can't always be relying on such help, at least not before we've made our bestest effort to get on our own feet, then only are we truly in need of help. Some people get so over reliant, they get muscle dystrophy, get so used and pampered to the demands of always having people pick you up, we lean on them, and tell them. Well, don't let me fall, if you wont be catching me" And then it's like in our own stagnant state we demand and enforce others to stay with us. And if they move on and thus we fall, we feel like it's their fault for moving away and not ours for leaning on them.
And then as well, the more intentional trip ups. People hurt you, knock you down, fail you, break your trust, betray you, and what not. Someone can do you wrong and punch you straight in the face and knock you over. You can choose to remain down and cry, sulk, and complain that he has to pick you up. Well, he should to make up for it, but what if he doesn't? Will you stay put and wait?
All in all, to sum up everything. We fall mostly due to our follies, and additionally by something else. We get knocked down, feel depressed, it's all part of natural physics. The biggest question is, what are you going to do next? Stay down and be unhappy, feel sorry for ourselves. Or pick yourself up, learn to overcome the pain. Have the scars as reminders and life lessons. Don't grow up physically yet remain emotionally infantile. Know that blaming others and feeling sorry for ourselves doesn't help anything; life moves on, with or without you.
We walk today, because we fell yesterday.
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