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Just as Expected
Friday, October 15, 2010
We all probably heard of disappointment coming from expectations. But yet, life cant be without expectations. As much as we try, there'll always be that expectation, which is given to us as a gift to be able to think beyond the present and to plan.I kinda thought about what's the line between good and bad expectations, afterall, an extremity of anything leads to an obsessive rigid person. Cut the thought short would be that, expectations ought be of more altruistic roots.An expectation of another shouldn't come from an imposed idea from ourselves unto others but more from the potential of another. And when the unfulfillment of an expectation arises, it isnt us who are hurt but only he who failed himself. Meaning like, as friends, we shouldn't expect them to be there for us, do things for us, become a certain person for us, but more of how they as an individual can reach their potential.Expect things from their perspective. If someone has the right heart to do something, yet is fearful, expect them to overcome it, I think sometimes all these disappointments we get from others and often due to us not getting what we want from someone else. Be it to claim love, comfort, time, words, attention and many other stuff, it boils down to wanting it for ourselves.To be a little bad, would be how some times paragraphs or passage depicting "love" often are idealistic and selfish? Having someone always there for you, someone to miss you when you are gone, someone to be needed. I'm not sure but does anyone realized the whole object of focus is only the self. And hence the conflict when two persons, come together with their own idealistic warped idea of a receiving love, and end up sucking each other dry of everything. Love isn't about receiving, it's about giving. When you find love, it's not that you found it, it begun with someone choosing to give it.Not that all these desires are wholly bad and stuff, but should be something we strike a balance. Too often in our daily lives are we so unaware in our obsession with ourselves, trying to reap benefits from everything that comes across, it cna be quite disgusting sometimes.I wished people would be more giving and less self centered.Labels: thoughts
Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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- Hosanna -
Philosophy:
I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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Collection of inspirations and reminders: Nico_thoughts@Twitter
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Just as Expected
Friday, October 15, 2010
We all probably heard of disappointment coming from expectations. But yet, life cant be without expectations. As much as we try, there'll always be that expectation, which is given to us as a gift to be able to think beyond the present and to plan.I kinda thought about what's the line between good and bad expectations, afterall, an extremity of anything leads to an obsessive rigid person. Cut the thought short would be that, expectations ought be of more altruistic roots.An expectation of another shouldn't come from an imposed idea from ourselves unto others but more from the potential of another. And when the unfulfillment of an expectation arises, it isnt us who are hurt but only he who failed himself. Meaning like, as friends, we shouldn't expect them to be there for us, do things for us, become a certain person for us, but more of how they as an individual can reach their potential.Expect things from their perspective. If someone has the right heart to do something, yet is fearful, expect them to overcome it, I think sometimes all these disappointments we get from others and often due to us not getting what we want from someone else. Be it to claim love, comfort, time, words, attention and many other stuff, it boils down to wanting it for ourselves.To be a little bad, would be how some times paragraphs or passage depicting "love" often are idealistic and selfish? Having someone always there for you, someone to miss you when you are gone, someone to be needed. I'm not sure but does anyone realized the whole object of focus is only the self. And hence the conflict when two persons, come together with their own idealistic warped idea of a receiving love, and end up sucking each other dry of everything. Love isn't about receiving, it's about giving. When you find love, it's not that you found it, it begun with someone choosing to give it.Not that all these desires are wholly bad and stuff, but should be something we strike a balance. Too often in our daily lives are we so unaware in our obsession with ourselves, trying to reap benefits from everything that comes across, it cna be quite disgusting sometimes.I wished people would be more giving and less self centered.Labels: thoughts
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