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It's Kinda Impersonal
Saturday, October 9, 2010
I've realized to the use of the word "kinda". It works as a tool of impersonalization. By adding the word kinda, it adds this vague meaning to whatever you're saying, and then it's left to the other party to evaluate how much meaning to give it, and whether or not how much they rightfully evaluate it, it's their evaluation and therefore not yours and hence no responsibility taken.Chim. I know. But imagine this. "I'm sorry for doing this". VS "I'm kinda sorry for doing this." In a way, it's meant for us to escape our own truth, which means whether or not you think I'm really sorry or a bit sorry is for you to decide cause its "kinda" so whatever you decide me to be is because you think/evaluate me that way not that its me being/showing myself that way.
Another way to put it is, "Im sorry, but I'm afraid to face up to you and me knowing I'm sorry so I use these 'vague measure' of "kinda" so if you think Im really sorry or not that sorry, its got nothing to do with me, you thought it that way" Impersonalizing things is just the way people do things to lessen that anxiety they feel. To escape the truth they know.My own example perhaps: In a simple base thought in my head, "I feel bad for me mistreating you at times". To push away my own uncomfortable feelings and to impersonalize it, as I type the sentence, "kinda" keeps appearing in my mind.
Til it becomes"I [kinda] feel [kinda] bad for me [kinda] mistreating you also at times?"Or the anxiety thoughts, I feel bad, but I dun dare bring this to light so however you perceive me or how much you think I feel is up to you and your own doing. But the thing is I feel really bad, and I'm just afraid to show it, to face up to the truth. It's like shifting the responsibility to the other party for deciding how much you're in it, like you knowing the truth but not wanting to say it out and therefore passing the responsibility to the receiver to portray what you said, so whatever it is, its their doing."I kinda think that love is blind." Example wise, I think that love is blind, but I fear that people might disagree with me or judge me for that, and hence I don't want to meet all these feelings and so I impersonalize it, pull myself out of the picture.
Well, I think the whole based issue would be people actually avoiding the truths inside them. or that real voice speaking and trying to escape from it. Take what you can, but I think it's not able making yourself feel comfortable when saying certain things, but the step of making yourself actually face the whole truth.
Like when saying to someone, "I kinda think no one loves me", change it into "I think no one loves me". Because by doing that, not only do you bring the full truth to the person you're sending it to, but also to yourself. Facing the truth seems hard at first, but you might come to realize, when you stand up to acknowledge the truth face on, things become so much easier to overcome. Because you accept it fully, and not linger about being half-faced about it.
Your voice. Your choice. Labels: thoughts
Darren Nico Pillai
Not-so-average teen, deep thinker, perfectionist with quirky randomness. Trained in the art of sarcasm and nonsensical logic.
Overcoming the circumstances of the present, and the issues of my past,
striving in self-betterment with a moral balance with the hope of the fulfillment of the destiny to be a light for Christ in His likeness,
spreading the love of God as how He first loved us
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Heal my heart and make it clean
Open up my eyes to the things unseen
Show me how to love like You have loved me
Break my heart for what breaks Yours
Everything I am, for Your kingdom's cause
As I walk from earth into eternity
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- Hosanna -
Philosophy:
I like to think about life, especially pursuing on the concept of love. Not that lovey dovey romantic kind, but the affections we have for one another
that ties us together,strangers, friends, besties, family, that's the love I wanna know about. Love is the essence of life that ties us together,
love is what we were made for and to be, love is embracing the gift of the relationship with GOD.
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It's Kinda Impersonal
Saturday, October 9, 2010
I've realized to the use of the word "kinda". It works as a tool of impersonalization. By adding the word kinda, it adds this vague meaning to whatever you're saying, and then it's left to the other party to evaluate how much meaning to give it, and whether or not how much they rightfully evaluate it, it's their evaluation and therefore not yours and hence no responsibility taken.Chim. I know. But imagine this. "I'm sorry for doing this". VS "I'm kinda sorry for doing this." In a way, it's meant for us to escape our own truth, which means whether or not you think I'm really sorry or a bit sorry is for you to decide cause its "kinda" so whatever you decide me to be is because you think/evaluate me that way not that its me being/showing myself that way.
Another way to put it is, "Im sorry, but I'm afraid to face up to you and me knowing I'm sorry so I use these 'vague measure' of "kinda" so if you think Im really sorry or not that sorry, its got nothing to do with me, you thought it that way" Impersonalizing things is just the way people do things to lessen that anxiety they feel. To escape the truth they know.My own example perhaps: In a simple base thought in my head, "I feel bad for me mistreating you at times". To push away my own uncomfortable feelings and to impersonalize it, as I type the sentence, "kinda" keeps appearing in my mind.
Til it becomes"I [kinda] feel [kinda] bad for me [kinda] mistreating you also at times?"Or the anxiety thoughts, I feel bad, but I dun dare bring this to light so however you perceive me or how much you think I feel is up to you and your own doing. But the thing is I feel really bad, and I'm just afraid to show it, to face up to the truth. It's like shifting the responsibility to the other party for deciding how much you're in it, like you knowing the truth but not wanting to say it out and therefore passing the responsibility to the receiver to portray what you said, so whatever it is, its their doing."I kinda think that love is blind." Example wise, I think that love is blind, but I fear that people might disagree with me or judge me for that, and hence I don't want to meet all these feelings and so I impersonalize it, pull myself out of the picture.
Well, I think the whole based issue would be people actually avoiding the truths inside them. or that real voice speaking and trying to escape from it. Take what you can, but I think it's not able making yourself feel comfortable when saying certain things, but the step of making yourself actually face the whole truth.
Like when saying to someone, "I kinda think no one loves me", change it into "I think no one loves me". Because by doing that, not only do you bring the full truth to the person you're sending it to, but also to yourself. Facing the truth seems hard at first, but you might come to realize, when you stand up to acknowledge the truth face on, things become so much easier to overcome. Because you accept it fully, and not linger about being half-faced about it.
Your voice. Your choice. Labels: thoughts
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